Sex in the Time of COVID-19: Tips for Being Intimate Without Sacrificing Your Health

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With every other news story warning you about COVID-19, you may be wondering whether or not you can still maintain intimacy. Is it safe to have sex? Do you have to go fully abstinent? How are you going to maintain your sexual activity with so much uncertainty going around?

While COVID-19 has certainly made things more complicated, there are always sensible, safe workarounds that will satisfy your libido without putting your health at risk.

Try an old standby

If you’re looking for a way to use your stimulus money, premium videos and downloadable DVDs might be a great option for you. Think about it: When’s the last time you watched a good, old-fashioned porno? Not, of course, the free 30-second clips. No, instead, when’s the last time you watched something a bit more high-quality?

Think about porn videos with sets, costumes, and even a plot. Sometimes, they’re worth it for the bad acting alone. If you’re spending quarantine alone, porn videos could be the ideal way to reduce some pent-up stress.

If you’re with a spouse or partner, these videos could be the ticket to spicing things back up in the bedroom. Stress has a way of impacting libido and if you’ve found that you’re less than active lately, premium videos could be exactly what you need to reconnect physically.

Of course, if you’re not looking to spend much, you could try a free premium period from the Pornhub team. However, it often doesn’t have the same luster to it as a full-length film. While there’s a lot you can do with a 30-second video clip, it likely won’t be enough to satisfy either you or your partner.

Look into video chat

Have you ever had video chat sex? No, not the kind over Skype where everyone feels a little awkward and uncomfortable. Instead, try videochat sex with a true professional.

People who run video chat sex websites and webcam shows know how to ease the tension and unlock your deepest fantasies. While you won’t be touching each other, there’s still a lot of erotic power in a quality video call.

Video chat sex is often all about the connection that you are able to build with the person on the other side of the webcam. In a way, while on a webcam, you have to be more open, honest, and intimate in a quicker amount of time than you normally do in-person. There’s a level of trust, a level of power, and a strong level of desire.

Of course, there are some rules to webcam shows and video chat sex. Don’t ask for a model’s personal information and don’t divulge yours. Also, don’t take screenshots unless that’s included in the package or you’ve received consent. Part of the allure of video chat sex is the mystery and the intrigue.

Screenshots during a webcam show are like that one person in the theater who films the end of a movie on their cellphone and releases it on YouTube. Not only does it make you look bad but it can potentially spoil the experience for someone else.

And, of course, the No. 1 rule is to be respectful. While there’s a lot of intimacy in video chat sex, you’re most likely talking to someone you don’t know. This is a profession, first and foremost. Treat webcam performers with respect and dignity, even in roleplaying situations.

Consider buying a sex doll

If one thing’s for sure, it’s that having intercourse with a sex doll is 100 percent safe—there’s no risk of infection whatsoever. What’s more? Owning a sex doll gives you the opportunity to try new things you may be too embarrassed to unleash in the bedroom IRL. With a love doll, you can give yourself a trial run before showing your partner what you can really do.

If you’re worried about buying a phony-looking doll, don’t be! The days of blow-up dolls with weird, ever-gaping mouths of astonishment are long gone. Nowadays, sex dolls look and feel like the real thing. (Thanks to FDA-approved medical-grade M-TPE material.) The sex doll site California Dolls, for example, sells a variety of realistic dolls, from blonde-haired sex dolls to small-breasted dolls to robotic sex dolls.

Be as patient as you can

Though COVID-19 has had an impact on everyone’s lives, it doesn’t have to destroy your intimacy or your libido. As long as you continue to practice social distancing and look for intimacy alternatives, there will be a light at the end of the tunnel. It simply takes work, patience, and an open, curious mind.